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[–] 40 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I thought this would be the case for me, but when we decided not to for our son, only one person we knew agreed with it. The crazy part is most people would start by saying something along the lines of "ooh it's a boy, how's it going down there?" Like they feel bad about it. But when I tell them we didn't suddenly its all about hygiene and aesthetics.

Also surprised at how many people asked about it...

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  • [–] 44 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    The hygiene thing is a myth. Yeah it can get dirty if you ignore cleaning it but no more so than any other body part. It's basically entirely a post-hoc rationalization from people who had it done to them when they were babies and weren't told it was because way back when some Puritan dipshits thought it might keep teenage boys from "being sinful" in their youth.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    My cousin-in-law died of an infection picked up from a medically unnecessary circumcision procedure.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago

    Before having a boy I was leaning towards preferring not to circumcise purely because it seems wild to take a new born baby that basically can't take any medications and is so vulnerable for the first few weeks, but we will do a cosmetic surgery. Then I started learning more about the surgery and the effects and risks and it became a "hell no!"

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    with emphasis on can get dirty, it's not something i've ever noticed. My bellybutton is infinitely dirtier.

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago

    My Gods I have no idea HOW the fucking bellybutton can catch so much dirt and lint. Like I don't even have to be wearing a shirt and I can still sometimes pull a whole ass Dust Bunny out of that fucking thing at the end of a day. Fucking HOW!? I wash you regularly!

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  • [–] 31 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I'm not cut, and same with my son. Why do people ask so much I will never know. I think the third (or fourth I can't remember) time I was asked I responded with "My parents were kind enough to not mutilate me, why would I mutilate him?"

    Then I responded with "Well, I'm not" after that. Seemed to be an effective way to jolt them into rethinking it.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago*

    As EmptySlime says, people ask because they have an irrational belief that must be socially normalized via basically peer pressure, otherwise they'd have to confront their cognitive dissonance and realize that they are mistaken and needlessly cruel.

    Its basically the same dynamic as children bullying poor kids that can't afford whatever the 'cool' clothes or shoes are, the same dynamic as many (not all, but many) religious people being literally unable to conceive of a person being able to be a generally morally good person without believing in a God as the source of that morality.

    Its an irrational worldview that is logically unstable if interrogated, thus it must be reinforced via pressured social norms.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    The hygiene thing is so bizarre, it's not hard to peel the thing while showering for like 3 seconds. Boys peel the thing very regularly anyway...

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