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She's a keeper (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] 154 points 1 year ago (2 children)

never underestimate the desire of some women for married man. I had a friend once tell me shw only dated married man because she knew he was good enough. No need to say the friendship didn't last long

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  • [–] 148 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    This is a real phenomenon. Men are more attractive when they're already in a relationship.

    There are similar psychological effects that exist elsewhere. A job applicant is more attractive if they currently have a job. A scholarship application is more attractive if you list your existing scholarships. The effect is basically: someone else found you desirable, and therefore I must also.

    The effect is so strong that it encourages people to fake it to gain the benefits.

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  • [–] 71 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    You're also more confident when you're not looking for anything tbh

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    I can attest, got out of a long term relationship a while back and have had absolutely no interest in getting involved with anyone to any degree, and I have been getting way more attention than I’m used to. Having no interest, however, just leads to me awkwardly smiling, a moment of silence while they’re waiting for reciprocation, and then me saying, “Thanks. Well, you have yourself a good one!” and scurrying away to play Red Dead 2.

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  • [–] 44 points 1 year ago

    I must be ugly as sin. My wife and I have been married almost five years and I have yet to be in a situation where a woman is pursuing me and I can shout, “I don’t know you! You’re not my wife!” and run away.

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  • [–] 33 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    Also the reason for the rock star phenomenon.

    A girl sees a guy with a girlfriend. Girl's monkeybrain says "she thinks he's a good bet, so he's already been vetted, and he's probably a good bet."

    Now a girl sees a guy at a party with two girls flirting with him. Now two other girls think he's a good bet. He must be a good bet.

    Now scale up. One guy is on stage playing the guitar. 3000 women are screaming that they love him. Our girl's monkeybrain: "literally thousands of other girls are debasing themselves to be with him - he is the most desireable guy in the world. Quick, scream, get his attention! He's your perfect soul mate, just make him notice you!"

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  • [–] 43 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    It’s like when children grab the toys of others. They don’t want to play with keep the toy, the fact of the toy being possessed is what makes the toy desirable. The grass is always married on the other side of the fence.

    Edit: choice of wordS

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