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[–] 113 points 1 year ago (4 children)

In a sense of understanding the wife's perspective, proximity is just as important as the other major factors that affect how likely a relationship is to begin. There was a cool study of college students who lived in an apartment style building that showed you were most likely to begin a relationship with the person who had a door immediately next to yours. The only exception to that was for the person who had a door immediately next to the mailboxes. Proximity matters because it lets another person see you enough to form opinions based on a lot of interactions, and we all know someone who 'shines' despite their physical looks.

Plot twist: new neighbor was wearing a shirt that read, "I <3 dad bods," and was already flirting (asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll) with the guy in sweatpants.

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  • [–] 80 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Really sad that so many people are closed-minded about relationships with mailboxes.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll

    Just as an aside, I would do this regardless of my interest. If I’m moving and there’s someone watching, I’m going to try to enlist help. They can say no and I won’t be offended in any way, but I’ll give it a shot, because moving sucks and it’s faster with more hands. I won’t gush about how strong the movers are or anything, but I will offer them beer/pizza afterwards.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I mean, come on. Being not too proud to ask for help, allowing someone else to feel useful and genuinely being appreciative of their help? That's pretty fucking hot to be honest. Maybe I'm a slut for being made to feel useful and appreciated.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    That study seems kinda backwards. I lived next to my future wife in student apartments, but that’s because we liked each other and intentionally chose the arrangement.

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  • [+] -22 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    If someone has to tell their spouse not to break their martial vows, or even feels like they have to say it, that couple should go to therapy.

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