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Who here cries at TV shows or movies? (discuss.tchncs.de)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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I’m asking as I’m trying to understand empathy and whether it’s normal to get so invested in fake characters, I mean it’s probably a testament to the writers but I overthink… a lot.

This question was bright on as I’ve been catching up on The Blacklist and at lunch today watching Season 8 Episode name “Anne “ and it wrecked me.

Tap for spoilerBasically the main character Red has to live a guarded life and for once he let it form and got close to Anne and you could tell shit was going to go downhill and it destroyed me when you think about it from his or her perspective.

For reference I’m 41 year old dude, not that it matters.

Edit: Bedtime for me but back tomorrow to reply to all.

Edit 2: I’ve got 41 comments to respond to. Currently working but I’ll be back y’all.

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[–] 13 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

I do. 25M. For movies, lyrics, stories... Can be most casual things for most people. But I detected some special meaning and I have tears in my eyes. I for some reason got more and more emotional since I was 18. Not sure why though. I hope anyone has some kind of ideas.

I find this strange since I do not consider myself very empatic. And I also consider word empathy cringe since it is often misused to demonize political opponents.

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  • [–] [S] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Yeah lyrics is another one I forgot to mention. It’s shocking how many people listen to songs but they don’t listen to the words.

    I too am intrigued as to why it seems to have made you more emotional since 18 and hope we get some good responses here.

    Interesting that you don’t consider yourself empathetic as I think I have too much at times and it’s a detriment to my own wellbeing.

    Sounds like a right freak saying I have too much empathy but I didn’t know how to word it. I guess too much relative to the people I grew up with and my family, that sounds better.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I think I can enable or disable my empathy. I could say cold hearted to a person to stop crying and do the right thing. I could even hit a child as a punishment if that were any useful. and give them a better life because of that (it does not work, so I won't). I am not sure if that even is the real definition of empathy.

    But this feeling cannot be empathy since it is does not have to involve relating to another being. It could be some deep and meaningful idea or point or moral of a story. Those usually get me the most.

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