▲ 103 ▼ Online dating (lemmy.world) submitted 3 years ago by Scarronline@lemmy.world to c/mildlyinfuriating@lemmy.world 79 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 5 points 3 years ago (3 children) This is literally out of these incel playbooks. Straight up tater tot bullshit lmao. permalink fedilink source hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] XEAL@lemm.ee 3 points 3 years ago This guy is more of a volcel permalink fedilink source parent [–] Burstar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 point 3 years ago* (1 child) The whole conversation is a facepalm. This should have been 3 lines: "What's the last song you saved?" 'I am not comfortable sharing that information with you' "Okay, if you're aren't willing to let me get to know your basic interests clearly this isn't the kind of relationship I'm looking for. Good luck and have a nice day" [ends transmission] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 1 point 3 years ago That sure would be nice but that pesky ego/personality is a tough one to ignore. I personally found that a lot of the women I talked to on dating apps acclimate themselves by becoming more jaded, sarcastic etc as a defense. Can’t blame em haha permalink fedilink source parent [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Tate is telling people not to be open about their interests? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 1 point 3 years ago (1 child) Nah, it’s the overall response pattern, tease, deny reject, feed after something really bad happens. It’s classical abuse techniques permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There's nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you” “Come on tell me” “Haha no” That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in” permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Man, I don't understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] scottywh@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) I don't think there's anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community ... Or whatever the fuck they call it these days... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Burstar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 point 3 years ago* (1 child) The whole conversation is a facepalm. This should have been 3 lines: "What's the last song you saved?" 'I am not comfortable sharing that information with you' "Okay, if you're aren't willing to let me get to know your basic interests clearly this isn't the kind of relationship I'm looking for. Good luck and have a nice day" [ends transmission] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 1 point 3 years ago That sure would be nice but that pesky ego/personality is a tough one to ignore. I personally found that a lot of the women I talked to on dating apps acclimate themselves by becoming more jaded, sarcastic etc as a defense. Can’t blame em haha permalink fedilink source parent
[–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 1 point 3 years ago That sure would be nice but that pesky ego/personality is a tough one to ignore. I personally found that a lot of the women I talked to on dating apps acclimate themselves by becoming more jaded, sarcastic etc as a defense. Can’t blame em haha permalink fedilink source parent
[–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Tate is telling people not to be open about their interests? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 1 point 3 years ago (1 child) Nah, it’s the overall response pattern, tease, deny reject, feed after something really bad happens. It’s classical abuse techniques permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There's nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you” “Come on tell me” “Haha no” That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in” permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Man, I don't understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] scottywh@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) I don't think there's anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community ... Or whatever the fuck they call it these days... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 1 point 3 years ago (1 child) Nah, it’s the overall response pattern, tease, deny reject, feed after something really bad happens. It’s classical abuse techniques permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There's nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you” “Come on tell me” “Haha no” That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in” permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Man, I don't understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] scottywh@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) I don't think there's anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community ... Or whatever the fuck they call it these days... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There's nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you” “Come on tell me” “Haha no” That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in” permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Man, I don't understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] scottywh@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) I don't think there's anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community ... Or whatever the fuck they call it these days... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you” “Come on tell me” “Haha no” That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in” permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Man, I don't understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] scottywh@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) I don't think there's anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community ... Or whatever the fuck they call it these days... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -3 points 3 years ago (1 child) Man, I don't understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] scottywh@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) I don't think there's anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community ... Or whatever the fuck they call it these days... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] scottywh@lemmy.world 0 points 3 years ago (1 child) I don't think there's anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community ... Or whatever the fuck they call it these days... permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] HardlightCereal@lemmy.world -2 points 3 years ago Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever "trick" this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying "I AM VERY BORING". I don't get how this attracts anyone. permalink fedilink source parent