My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
[–]kwedd@feddit.nl13 points1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
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Tell his son or daughter that he made a mistake, apologize for setting a bad example, and tell them the right thing to do, assuming the relationship was untenable, would've been to end things with his wife before pursuing someone else.
Edit: A bad husband doesn't necessarily make a bad father, though.
Edit 2: Come to think of it, a good father would probably also have waited a little longer before having his girlfriend move in.