▲ 20 ▼ How do you celebrate? (lazysoci.al) submitted 1 year ago by foxglove@lazysoci.al [M] to c/WomensStuff@lazysoci.al 11 comments fedilink hide all child comments When something great happens in your life how do you celebrate? Here are a few things I do: buy a bouquet of flowers for my partner go to a nice restaurant bake or cook something special, esp. a sweet treat like cake, cookies, etc.
[+] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] foxglove@lazysoci.al [S] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) I had to look up dysthymia, but it sounds awful, I'm so sorry 🫂 I don't have PDD, but I do have a variety of mental health symptoms that overlap with the symptoms of PDD, and while I'm doing a lot better these days, I have previously suffered decades of depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation that I wouldn't want anyone else to go through. 😅 If not celebration, what are ways that you cope or find joy? I remember through those times rewarding / tasty food became a bit like a lifeline. I do not know your depression, but my depression was very anhedonic, so as a baseline everything was less enjoyable. So I had a lot of "craving" behavior, seeking easy and quick rewards because I couldn't motivate myself to do much else and nothing was enjoyable anyway. Cooking for others became a major coping strategy, as cooking for others triggered my sense of responsibility, which helped with the depressive / motivation issues. Basically I could leverage stress to animate my unwilling flesh (even though it was, you know, stressful and awful), and getting good enough at cooking then setup a reliable pattern of rewards. Eventually I noticed if I ate at restaurants too much or outsourced my cooking to something like prepared or frozen meals to save time, I became much more miserable and sank more into my depression - honestly cooking kept me alive in multiple senses. Anyway, I wonder if you have something like that, not necessarily celebratory - but like a spring bubbling up from the ground that sustains you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] foxglove@lazysoci.al [S] 1 point 1 year ago lol, I borderline worry I shouldn't talk to you because I think we have some similar afflictions and perspectives, and usually I steer things right into "yeah, why even be alive" territory ... that's not gone so well with some other folks so I try to be more ethical and aware about that potential now. so yeaah, didn't expect happy - but I might have been trying to steer myself away from the dark places I typically would have gone, and it seems you got what I meant - the things that keep you alive. 😅 Music can be great, I taught myself the electric bass a couple years ago - that can be fun 😁 permalink fedilink source parent
[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al [S] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) I had to look up dysthymia, but it sounds awful, I'm so sorry 🫂 I don't have PDD, but I do have a variety of mental health symptoms that overlap with the symptoms of PDD, and while I'm doing a lot better these days, I have previously suffered decades of depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation that I wouldn't want anyone else to go through. 😅 If not celebration, what are ways that you cope or find joy? I remember through those times rewarding / tasty food became a bit like a lifeline. I do not know your depression, but my depression was very anhedonic, so as a baseline everything was less enjoyable. So I had a lot of "craving" behavior, seeking easy and quick rewards because I couldn't motivate myself to do much else and nothing was enjoyable anyway. Cooking for others became a major coping strategy, as cooking for others triggered my sense of responsibility, which helped with the depressive / motivation issues. Basically I could leverage stress to animate my unwilling flesh (even though it was, you know, stressful and awful), and getting good enough at cooking then setup a reliable pattern of rewards. Eventually I noticed if I ate at restaurants too much or outsourced my cooking to something like prepared or frozen meals to save time, I became much more miserable and sank more into my depression - honestly cooking kept me alive in multiple senses. Anyway, I wonder if you have something like that, not necessarily celebratory - but like a spring bubbling up from the ground that sustains you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] foxglove@lazysoci.al [S] 1 point 1 year ago lol, I borderline worry I shouldn't talk to you because I think we have some similar afflictions and perspectives, and usually I steer things right into "yeah, why even be alive" territory ... that's not gone so well with some other folks so I try to be more ethical and aware about that potential now. so yeaah, didn't expect happy - but I might have been trying to steer myself away from the dark places I typically would have gone, and it seems you got what I meant - the things that keep you alive. 😅 Music can be great, I taught myself the electric bass a couple years ago - that can be fun 😁 permalink fedilink source parent
[+] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] foxglove@lazysoci.al [S] 1 point 1 year ago lol, I borderline worry I shouldn't talk to you because I think we have some similar afflictions and perspectives, and usually I steer things right into "yeah, why even be alive" territory ... that's not gone so well with some other folks so I try to be more ethical and aware about that potential now. so yeaah, didn't expect happy - but I might have been trying to steer myself away from the dark places I typically would have gone, and it seems you got what I meant - the things that keep you alive. 😅 Music can be great, I taught myself the electric bass a couple years ago - that can be fun 😁 permalink fedilink source parent
[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al [S] 1 point 1 year ago lol, I borderline worry I shouldn't talk to you because I think we have some similar afflictions and perspectives, and usually I steer things right into "yeah, why even be alive" territory ... that's not gone so well with some other folks so I try to be more ethical and aware about that potential now. so yeaah, didn't expect happy - but I might have been trying to steer myself away from the dark places I typically would have gone, and it seems you got what I meant - the things that keep you alive. 😅 Music can be great, I taught myself the electric bass a couple years ago - that can be fun 😁 permalink fedilink source parent