so this one girl, i’ll call her ella (19f) is transphobic, homophobic

she lashes out a lot, exaggerates things, and cannot read social cues. however, she has autism and adhd and is mentally much younger.

she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and she says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”

she says she got her views from her parents and refuses to change because “it’s the way i am”. for someone who was mentally 19, I’d cut contact, but she’s mentally a lot younger.

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[–] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah, I should've looked it up first, Russell Barkley says it's 30% (I got a digit correct yay!). I know what you mean, all my classmates somehow seemed much more mature than me and I had no way to express that feeling back then.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    Hm, I guess dealing with parental quirks tilted me the other way. I feel now like I want to be perpetually 20, but I had a chronically depressed single/divorced mom and an alcoholic dad (I'm pretty sure he was self medicating for his undiagnosed ADHD, and have come to terms with all that went on). So yeah, I parented my parents.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    Do you have more info on this?

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    I was hoping more for studies that illustrate this, not just an article summarizing it all

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    All I can do is point you to Dr Barkley's work (he's a trusted authority on ADHD) and the references at the bottom. I know this isn't ideal but I am utterly incapable of reading entire actual scientific papers, it's a miracle when I manage to read articles like this from start to finish - which I know is an issue. Which is also why I tried to hedge my words in my original post (there seems to be evidence).

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