▲ 83 ▼ What is a specific fear you have? (lemmy.blahaj.zone) submitted 1 year ago by Interstellar_1@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world 93 comments fedilink hide all child comments By specific, I mean not general fears like fear of heights or spiders.
[–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 42 points 1 year ago (3 children) Finding one of my children dead, it has happened once already. permalink fedilink source hideshow 6 child comments replies: [+] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TeamAssimilation@infosec.pub 7 points 1 year ago (1 child) At least your parents like metric! That’s gotta count! But seriously, no license is needed to become a parent, one of the greatest responsibilities IMO. Maybe they don’t actually hate you, and just don’t know to parent good. If they hated your guts, why would they (badly?) raise you instead of giving you in adoption the moment you were born? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago (sorry for the rant, feeling very suicidal rn) Please find someone with whom you can talk. permalink fedilink source parent [–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 7 points 1 year ago (1 child) Thanks for sharing this. Losing a child is so devastating people become pariah, but you're showing people it happens and people get through it. I'm sorry your child passed, they should still be here today permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago* (1 child) Work was very supportive of me during that time, excluding my direct supervisor, who nearly ended up being fired over it. I had support from friends that helped as well. But it being a suicide added so much more taboo to it. His birth giving parent (is a trans man) was raised very religious and had a hard time telling people it was a suicide, so I kept it quiet. Eventually they announced the suicide and me being able to talk about it in that sense really helped me a lot. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 1 year ago I'm glad that you got the support you needed and deserved. I've got a lot of respect for your boss fighting so hard for you. Suicide is really hard, it brings up additional terrible and profound emotions. Having to keep it secret is additional stress, and isn't a nice secret to keep. Well done for getting through it ❤️ permalink fedilink source parent [–] Goun@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 child) I'm so sorry! It happened to two friends of mine and they were absolutely destroyed, stay strong! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago It was 11 1/2 years ago, he would be 29 years this year. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TeamAssimilation@infosec.pub 7 points 1 year ago (1 child) At least your parents like metric! That’s gotta count! But seriously, no license is needed to become a parent, one of the greatest responsibilities IMO. Maybe they don’t actually hate you, and just don’t know to parent good. If they hated your guts, why would they (badly?) raise you instead of giving you in adoption the moment you were born? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago (sorry for the rant, feeling very suicidal rn) Please find someone with whom you can talk. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] TeamAssimilation@infosec.pub 7 points 1 year ago (1 child) At least your parents like metric! That’s gotta count! But seriously, no license is needed to become a parent, one of the greatest responsibilities IMO. Maybe they don’t actually hate you, and just don’t know to parent good. If they hated your guts, why would they (badly?) raise you instead of giving you in adoption the moment you were born? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago (sorry for the rant, feeling very suicidal rn) Please find someone with whom you can talk. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago (sorry for the rant, feeling very suicidal rn) Please find someone with whom you can talk. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago (sorry for the rant, feeling very suicidal rn) Please find someone with whom you can talk. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 7 points 1 year ago (1 child) Thanks for sharing this. Losing a child is so devastating people become pariah, but you're showing people it happens and people get through it. I'm sorry your child passed, they should still be here today permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago* (1 child) Work was very supportive of me during that time, excluding my direct supervisor, who nearly ended up being fired over it. I had support from friends that helped as well. But it being a suicide added so much more taboo to it. His birth giving parent (is a trans man) was raised very religious and had a hard time telling people it was a suicide, so I kept it quiet. Eventually they announced the suicide and me being able to talk about it in that sense really helped me a lot. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 1 year ago I'm glad that you got the support you needed and deserved. I've got a lot of respect for your boss fighting so hard for you. Suicide is really hard, it brings up additional terrible and profound emotions. Having to keep it secret is additional stress, and isn't a nice secret to keep. Well done for getting through it ❤️ permalink fedilink source parent
[–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago* (1 child) Work was very supportive of me during that time, excluding my direct supervisor, who nearly ended up being fired over it. I had support from friends that helped as well. But it being a suicide added so much more taboo to it. His birth giving parent (is a trans man) was raised very religious and had a hard time telling people it was a suicide, so I kept it quiet. Eventually they announced the suicide and me being able to talk about it in that sense really helped me a lot. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 1 year ago I'm glad that you got the support you needed and deserved. I've got a lot of respect for your boss fighting so hard for you. Suicide is really hard, it brings up additional terrible and profound emotions. Having to keep it secret is additional stress, and isn't a nice secret to keep. Well done for getting through it ❤️ permalink fedilink source parent
[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 1 year ago I'm glad that you got the support you needed and deserved. I've got a lot of respect for your boss fighting so hard for you. Suicide is really hard, it brings up additional terrible and profound emotions. Having to keep it secret is additional stress, and isn't a nice secret to keep. Well done for getting through it ❤️ permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Goun@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 child) I'm so sorry! It happened to two friends of mine and they were absolutely destroyed, stay strong! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago It was 11 1/2 years ago, he would be 29 years this year. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago It was 11 1/2 years ago, he would be 29 years this year. permalink fedilink source parent