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Grandma thinks I’m “weird” and “obsessed” every time I talk about anything with family, she also thinks I get offended too easily. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by insomniacalmond@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/needadvice@lemm.ee

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Every time I talk to my family about something, and my grandma happens to be in the room (almost always), I could bring up something such as school friends (since my family will ask if anything exciting happened), and I’ll bring up something ONCE like: “I’m so happy for my friend Ella. She’s liked this dude, Michael, for a long time, and now they’re finally together!”

Suddenly, my grandma will say “You know, it’s so WEIRD that you’re obsessed with Ella’s dating life? Why are you being so WEIRD?”

I’ll calmly respond with, “I’m just happy for her. I’m talking about things that happened at school.”

She’ll tell me that I get offended too easily and that I’m oppressing her, that she can’t say ANYTHING without me getting offended.

When I told my family that I just got diagnosed with a disorder and was trying to process it, she told me I was obsessed with “being mentally ill and making it my whole personality”, when I only mentioned being tested for it a few times.

She frequently makes comments when I say anything about a topic, and then when I calmly tell her that her comment isn’t true, she thinks that I’m upset with her and stuff.

How do I deal with the comments? I live with her, BTW.

[–] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 12 points 2 years ago

Is this behavior just directed at you, or do you notice other people also get treated this way? Is this a recent development, or has she been this way a long time? Sometimes when folks get older, becoming more combative for no reason or losing a filter can be early signs of dementia. It may be worth bringing up to your parent(s) privately to let them know you're concerned about Grandma's behavior and if it could be a health issue. If it's a long time thing, especially one that's targeted at you, well, maybe that's time for a different conversation about why your Grandma has been picking on you so much.

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