It doesn't matter does it?

Why are you obsessed with labels? That's how we got that whole mess with pronouns; as far as I'm concerned these labels are another manifestation of people that used to be obsessed with job titles. Binmen became Personal refuse executives; they did the same job.

If you're happy with what you're doing sexually, it won't take you long to describe it to someone in the same sexual ballpark.

Just be you, everyone else is already taken.