I’m new to online dating, for those with experience in the field, What is the most important advice you would give a newbie.

Everyone talks about red flags, but what’s a tiny thing someone does on a first date that makes you instantly like them? For me, it’s how they treat the staff or if they have a funny story about their dog.

Seeing this a lot on profiles. No idea what it means? It's suppose to mean they are more laid back or something? Or is it like they are anti-reservation?

I just sit wherever is free at a restaurant, I don't really see any distinction between sitting at a bar, a high top, or a table.

@dating Hi guys

I met a girl on hinge, we hit it off, the conversation was great and we were both really into it. We planned a first date. The date honestly felt magical. It was as if time flew by. We then plan a second date, we meet. At the end of the night we kissed. We continue to text, I plan a third date for this weekend. She agrees, were supposed to go to a light festival.

The next day she sends me a text where she says she's not interested in anything romantic and if I'm ok with that, she'll still go on the date with me. I text her back that it's a bit weird for me to suddenly switch so I want to cancel the date because I'd need some time if we were to be just friends. She then tells me that's she's there if I ever want to talk.

Honestly, I'll probably never reach out again but I do wonder if I did the right thing.

So I’m going on a fifth date with a girl I met. We’ve been talking for about 1.5 months now. I asked her if she was free Thursday night but she said no but is free Saturday night. We plan to go to a group event that is valentine theme. This is my first time ever having a date too 🫣

Anyway my questions are:

1. So she got me a lovely gift on our fourth date because she loves gifting. I know she loves flowers especially tulips because they make her days better. Now I know tulips are “more serious” but would it be a bad idea to get her some (especially since it’s Valentine’s Day and the group event she’ll also get to take the item we make home) I don’t want her to get the wrong message with the tulips

2. Along with texting and dating for a bout a month we’ve also had phone calls….ik it’s the fifth date but with all this time frame a good time just to inquire about where we stand? Like I’m fine if she wants to take it slow but I want to show her I’m interested in something more — Not sure if it helps but during 4th date is when she got comfortable with hugging and me picking her up

3. After dropping her off after hugging can I mention how much fun I had and would like to see her again and say something like are you free Wednesday night? Or wait a few hours

Third date went great (thanks to everyones advice in my previous post) however I offered a fourth date to a jazz bar Saturday however forgot valentines day can make reservations hard (didn't know the palce did reservations). And I told her I was thinking that place before i found out about reservations. Or try finding another live music place since she loves all live music not just jazz.

Should I resort to something like a paintwork shop (even though the theme is valentines and we aren't a couple yet)?

I'm still learning the ropes here and any advice would be very helpfu.

This is what the least subtle painting I could find would be

I’ve [28M] never been pass the first date, but some how made it to date three. I really want this to go well

I offered to pick her up and she said yes but I’m not sure what the etiquette is

When I pick her up do I open car door from inside, let her open it, or get out when I see her (give her a hug too? Not sure cuz first date we shook hands and second held hands for a little bit but didn’t hug or shake hands after that date) then open the door?

What about when I drop her off? Do I walk up with her and possibly give a hug? And can instead of that wait within 24 hours thing if things went well can I tell her I’d like to see her again then?

Also would new balance gym shoes be fine for an art gallery date? What about jeans and a flannel shirt?

im 157cm (5′2) 26yo male i have been in a realationship for 3years and i did had success somewhat with girls. tho sometime I feel like i need to work very hard, harder than my tall friends. if im not on my top shape and lean i feel like im not enough, and given less chances with girls. im pretty muscular, and have an ok face, i also pretty nice to talk to and tbh i never had a first date which the girl didnt want to go to a second date with me. but the height a lot of times made some girls not even consider me, and tbh 157 cm is like shorter than 99% of guys. im thinking about doing it to get to 5′6 tho i also dont wanna be the guy who is known for doing limb lengthning surgery cause its like an insecure thing. im pretty lost tbh. need some outsiders perspective ty

I M(38) have been on a sabbatical through Asia and got to know a lovely woman. We have slept with each other, spend 2 weeks together. She even cooked for me. I know she wants me. I am back home now and we are staying in touch over whatsapp. She wants to see me again and I'm pretty sure she wants a relationship and eventually settle with kids. I, on my hand, am not sure if I should settle for her. I fear that she is only after my money and will reveal her true colors once she is married to me. I am doing well in life and it is her chance to leave her poor country behind and upgrade her life. She seems really fine so far but like I said I fear that she is baiting me and wants to exploit me financially. How do I approach this to check what she is really about? Its risky to settle for her but its probably even riskier to settle for a woman in my country (high divorce rates). So what do I have to lose, right?

Hey Lemmings!

Do you have any nice stories about dating or finding love to share with those who might struggle?